This series was created to highlight sex bloggers (new and old) to my readers. If you’d like your sex blog featured, please read my instructions and get in touch!
Which sex-related blog(s) do you run and how long have you been at it? By what name may we call you?
Hi, I’m Livvy from Livvy Libertine and I’ve been blogging steadily for about 5 months now, although the blog has been up for just over a year.
Sum up your blog (such as theme, goal, focus, quirkiness, uniqueness).
My blog is a simple place where I want people to be able to read good erotica and quality reviews. I also offer up my own opinions on various topics that I tend to keep related to relationships or sex and sexuality in general. My goal is simply to be the best blogger I can be and hope that maybe I can be an inspiration to someone else.
What is your blog’s “creation story”? Why was it born? Did any already-established bloggers inspire you?
The only established blogger I knew about when I started was the inimitable Epiphora and, while I don’t presume to ever reach the pinnacle of her greatness, she made sex blogging look fun. My partner encouraged me to go for it and has supported me, so they are a large part of my inspiration for creating my blog.
What is your favourite post on your blog to date? Why?
My favorite post is Secret in the Stacks (erotica) because it was my first featured Wicked Wednesday post. I was amazed that anyone could call my writing good enough to make the top three stories of the week.
What does “sex-positive” mean to you?
For me, sex positivity is the ability to love and enjoy oneself at any size, shape, gender, etc. that you want to be. If that means you don’t want sex, OK. If you’re a little sex-crazed, that’s OK too, but I hope if that’s you, then you’re being safe about what you do. It means being an advocate for your sexual self and being willing to take a stand on important issues that relate to you and how you view sex and sex positivity.
Have you found any friends (or heroes) in the sex blogging community?
I have a hard time making friends and so I don’t feel like I really fit in too much, but I’ve found so many heroes from Dangerous Lilly, to Girly Juice, to you Miss Ruby (thanks for reaching out to me when I started a year ago), and so many others.
How important (or unimportant) is anonymity to you?
Anonymity is a big deal for me simply because, in my real life, I am a very private person. I also have reasons for not wanting family or friends to discover what I do, so I’m keeping things on the down low for sure.
If one of these readers becomes your biggest fan, where can they follow you on social media?
I can be found on Facebook here and Twitter as @Livvy_Libertine, where I’m more easily reachable. I can also be emailed at livvy.libertine[at]gmail[dot]com and that is probably the easiest way to reach me
Have you ever had anything bizarre or horrible or funny or amazing happen as a result of blogging?
There was the time that I almost made a public FB post about ordering a sex toy to my personal (real life) page. Oops!!
For sex toy users: Imagine your plane is crashing near a deserted, gorgeous island. Before you jump into your lifeboat, you fumble through your bags to find the perfect sex toy to use until you’re rescued (by awfully good-looking sailors, obviously). Which toy did you choose?
My Njoy Pure wand for sure!
Has sex blogging shaped/influenced you in a broader “real-life” sense? (i.e, your worldview, your personality, your confidence?)
I feel like sex blogging has made me more aware of what toys are good and safe and which ones to avoid, as well as given me a better grasp on my own sexuality. Learning from established bloggers is slowly giving me more confidence in my own writing as well.
Introvert or extrovert? Cats or dogs? Coffee or tea?
- Both coffee or tea depending on my mood; dirty chai lattes are the best though!
If you could magically and instantaneously change something about this industry (i.e., sex toy industry, erotica, porn, sex education, etc), what would you change?
I’d love to see an improvement in sex ed, especially in schools. I would love to be able to someday become an advocate for that or teach it myself.
Lastly, what advice would you give to readers who are considering starting a sex blog of their own
Some days, the only thing that keeps me writing is sheer stubbornness. When you’re just starting out and have very few readers, it can be hard to keep going (at least for me). Also, having a reason, not that I need one, to bust out my sex toys and look at them from a different perspective is a lot of fun for me.
Ideally I think my best advice to new bloggers is to keep at it, ask questions, and to find your own voice.