This series was created to highlight sex bloggers (new and old) to my readers. If you’d like your sex blog featured, please read my instructions and get in touch!
THE DEAF QUEER
Which sex-related blog(s) do you run and how long have you been at it? By what name may we call you?
I run The Deaf Queer, and have been blogging for 6 months. Royce is my Internet name!
Sum up your blog (such as theme, goal, focus, quirkiness, uniqueness).
My blog currently consists of sex toy reviews, but it will be more personalized soon. I’m a nonbinary queer poly pansexual cutie. My goal is to share the awareness about body-safe toys, safe kink, sexual health, and other important gender issues with the Deaf community that is deeply lacking proper sex education.
What is your blog’s “creation story”? Why was it born?
Initially, I had been interested in blogging about sex toys for a couple of months but I did a lot of research and discovered there weren’t any minority group of Deaf sex bloggers/educators. So I decided to become a sex blogger and do my important bit in the community.
Did any already-established bloggers inspire you?
Yup! Epiphora, Dangerous Lilly, Girly Juice, Oh Joy Sex Toy, and A Femme Cock. I read their blogs for 6+ months for research purposes before I jumped onto the blogger bandwagon.
What is your favourite post on your blog to date? Why?
My “Monthly Queer Thoughts” posts that are a compilation of little things that were important to highlight monthly. It can range anywhere from a favorite sex toy, to femme looks, selfies, and feelings. I enjoy putting these together because it’s a little slice of my personality.
What does “sex-positive” mean to you?
Adopting a oft-needed perspective that all bodies are normal, all bodies are diverse, and educating those that anything to do with sex should be put in a positive spotlight as well as remove any stigmas around it.
Have you found any friends (or heroes) in the sex blogging community?
I’ve made so many important connections to the bloggers in the community, and they all have become wonderful people to be friends with.
How important (or unimportant) is anonymity to you?
Somewhat important; I am semi-anonymous by name only but I am open with my readers knowing what I look like so they can relate to my story.
If one of these readers becomes your biggest fan, where can they follow you on social media?
Yes! I’m fairly active on Twitter, and I post pictures that relate to blog posts on Instagram.
Do you consider yourself an advocate/supporter/ally for any minority groups?
Absolutely! Myself being nonbinary, I’m a huge advocate and supporter of transgender rights, and gender education as well.
Have you ever had anything bizarre or horrible or funny or amazing happen as a result of blogging?
Honestly, the size of my reader base has been amazing since I started blogging. I didn’t think I would garner 3k views and over 1,300 visitors to my blog over the amount of 6 months.
For sex toy users: Imagine your plane is crashing near a deserted, gorgeous island. Before you jump into your lifeboat, you fumble through your bags to find the perfect sex toy to use until you’re rescued (by awfully good-looking sailors, obviously). Which toy did you choose?
My Blush Novelties Helio. It doesn’t need batteries! 😛
Has sex blogging shaped/influenced you in a broader “real-life” sense? (i.e, your worldview, your personality, your confidence?)
Absolutely. I’m always helping folks out in my life when it comes to body safe toys, and safe lube, and I feel better knowing that they have the information to buy products that won’t give them any health hazards.
Introvert or extrovert? Cats or dogs? Coffee or tea?
I’m an ambivert! I love both, but I’m particularly a cat person. I love coffee, but I like iced black tea.
If you could magically and instantaneously change something about this industry (i.e., sex toy industry, erotica, porn, sex education, etc), what would you change?
Ban all PVC, shitty jelly sex toys, warming lubes, and jelly cockrings.
What are the top 1-3 factors that keep you blogging? What’s keeping you here?
- My readers.
- Confidence in my writing.
- Community support from bloggers.
Lastly, what advice would you give to readers who are considering starting a sex blog of their own?
Research. Figure out how you want your blog to embody you, how you want to present yourself to your readers, and figure out your writing style for reviews or personal posts.
Experiment with a wide variety of toys! Not all toys will work for your body, and in the process you will learn what fits best for your body preferences.
Have fun! Be open-minded, and support as many bloggers as you can; this community is close-knit and it’s great to have that support.