This week, we learn about On Her Back!
This series was created to highlight sex bloggers (new and old) to my readers. If you’d like your sex blog featured, please read my instructions and get in touch!
On Her Back
1. Which sex-related blog(s) do you run and how long have you been at it? By what name may we call you? Pronouns?
My name is Rose and I’ve been blogging since 2014. I took a two-year break to avoid being slut-shamed in court but I’m back now. Pronouns are she/her.
2. Where are you from?
The US.
3. Where can we find you on social media?
Twitter and Instagram: @on_her_back; Reddit: onherbackreviews_; https://
4. Sum up your blog (such as its theme, focus, quirkiness, uniqueness).
I blog to help you find the right tools to help you discover, and maintain your sexuality. I can be a bit crude but I’m honest.
5. What is your blog’s creation story? Why was it born? Did any already-established bloggers inspire you?
I’m going to be very, very honest with y’all. I started this blog to get free sex toys. I didn’t know sex toy reviewing was a thing and I jumped on the opportunity to get into it myself. However, I’ve grown to care about sex toys and the sex industry. I care about my readers and I care that they get a good toy and learn something for me.
While my blog started out as a way to get toys, I’m here to help you now. In 2016 I went through a traumatic experience that messed with my sex life. Now, I blog to regain my sexuality as well.
6. What do you do full time? Blog? Or do something else?
I’m a full-time blogger, especially now that COVID-19 stay-at-home shelter is advised. It’ll be quite a while before I can get an in-person job.
7. Do you consider yourself an advocate/supporter of any particular group(s)? And/Or, are you a member of a group whose voice is often suppressed?
I’m a member of the LGBTQIA+ community. I’m in a lesbian relationship with my wonderful partner who is a transwoman. While I don’t have an LGBTQIA+ focus on my blog, it is something I’d like to explore.
8. What are your short and long-term goals for your blog? Aiming to stay for years, or is this a short-term hobby?
I’ve been doing this for six years now, so it’s safe to say this is a long term/perm thing for me. I’m hoping to grow my blog and audience so I can reach more people. I like the idea that if I reach more people, my voice will develop and I may find something specific I want to focus on.
9. What is your favourite post on your blog to date? Why?
This is a hard one to answer. My voice has changed over the years and so has the way I format my posts. There is a post where I address mistreatment from an indie maker that I like but it’s not something I want to focus on.
I’m painfully candid about why I had to pause my blog in this post but before you read it. I must warn you there is a trigger warning for assault. It felt good to get out why I had to stop something I loved so much.
10. What does “sex-positive” mean to you?
You’d think that’d be an easy answer because I’m a sex blogger but the thing is, it means so much to me. Consent is the most important bit of sex-positivity. Sex-positivity is being with my partner in public. It’s telling people I review sex toys. It’s exploring new kinks and deciding that, no, that one’s not for me.
11. Have you found any friends (or heroes) in the sex blogging community?
Ruby, you for sure. I remember when you were starting out ^_^ It’s been a pleasure to watch you flourish. I’ve developed friendships with a lot of bloggers who I chat with daily. And then there’s Epiphora who is another sex blogging hero.
12. Who is the single biggest supporter of your blog?
My partner is my biggest support. While I have friends that occasionally edit for me or help me with the tech side of blogging, my partner told me to not worry about finding a day job and instead she wants me to focus on this blog, On Her Back. She sees how much it means to me and she’s nourishing that. I’m forever grateful to her.
13. How important (or unimportant) is anonymity to you?
It’s pretty darn important. I don’t post photos of my face and the driving force behind anonymity is that I fear repercussions. If I’d been out, taking my abuser to court would have been very difficult. As it was, taking down my blog completely was the most significant way I protected myself.
14. Have you ever had anything bizarre or horrible or funny or amazing happen as a result of blogging?
Yes, absolutely. I’m going to keep it brief and just remind you to poop before you put in a butt plug for the day.
15. For sex toy users: If you could only have one sex toy for the rest of your life… what is it?
That is such a hard answer because the sex toy industry is constantly changing. At this point it’d be the We-Vibe Melt, the first toy to make me squirt.
16. Has sex blogging shaped/influenced you in a broader “real-life” sense? (i.e., your worldview, your personality, your confidence?)
Absolutely. My friends know me to be a sex-positive individual. I’ve helped many find toys, answered questions and helped everyone from my roommate to my mom find a vibrator.
17. Introvert or extrovert? Cats or dogs? Coffee or tea? Which Hogwarts house?
Ravenclaw, dogs, extroverted-introvert.
18. If you could magically and instantaneously change something about this community (i.e., sex toy industry, blogger politics, erotica, porn, sex education, etc), what would you change?
The idea that some sex toy shops and manufacturers think we should be doing this for free. This is a lot of work and it takes a lot of time out of our day.
19. What are the top 1-3 reasons that keep you blogging?
- It. makes. me. so happy. So, so happy.
- I want to spread sex-positivity.
- My sex life thrives with myself and my partner when I’m reviewing. It’s a wonderful side effect of being a sex toy reviewer.
20. Lastly, what advice would you give to readers considering starting a sex blog of their own?
I’d ask them to check in with themselves and really figure out why they want to do it. People make mistakes and one day we could be outed but that isn’t too likely. I hope people who want to get into this do it for their enjoyment and it improves their sex life like it did mine. After all, a solo sex-life is still a sex life.
Thanks Rose! If you’d like your sex blog featured, please read my instructions and get in touch!
Last Updated on September 8, 2020 by Miss Ruby
