This series was created to highlight sex bloggers (new and old) to my readers. If you’d like your sex blog featured, please read my instructions and get in touch!
Which sex-related blog(s) do you run and how long have you been at it? By what name may we call you?
I’m Finn & I run Fuckleberry Finn, which I started in December 2016. I’m pretty new to blogging as a whole, but I’ve been a silent observer for about three years. I use they/them pronouns.
Sum up your blog (such as theme, goal, focus, quirkiness, uniqueness).
My blog is primarily a sex toy review blog, but I also post about my personal explorations with kink, gender, (bi)sexuality, and gender. I’m trans-masculine so I give the perspective of someone who has gender feelings about toys, as well as having genitals affected by testosterone therapy. I’m also from Australia, so I hope to highlight some Australian companies and retailers.
What is your blog’s “creation story”? Why was it born? Did any already-established bloggers inspire you?
I had been thinking about what kind of posts I would write in my own sex blog for a long time, and mentally planning reviews when using toys, but it was Epiphora’s post “A Sex Blogger By Any Other Name” that convinced me to start my blog. The combination of very palpable feelings about being a sex blogger and the identity and community that fosters, with a strong message for the sex industry at large, convinced me that a sex blog would be a rewarding use of my time. Obviously, Epiphora is a hero of mine, but I also love Kate Sloan, who inspires me to write about my more personal feelings.
What is your favourite post on your blog to date? Why?
I’m really proud of “Spanking: Chapter 1.” My spanking kink was an important realization for me, and it was directly linked to my entrance into the sex blogging community. Having very tangible evidence of how sex blogging has impacted my life so early on is really exciting.
What does “sex-positive” mean to you?
For me, being sex positive is allowing other people to engage in whatever safe and consensual activities they want to, as well as advocating for safety in sex practices. I do however understand the pressure for people to engage in niche sex acts or things they aren’t particularly interested in, in the attempt to get more sex positive “cred”, so I’m adamant that there is no relation between sex positive politics and your own sex life (as long as it is both safe and consensual).
Have you found any friends (or heroes) in the sex blogging community?
I’m generally quite reticent to approach people so I haven’t made any friends per say, but I adore Epiphora, Kate Sloan, Bex, Tina Horn, Archie & Ethel and the Fist You Podcast, and my fellow Australian blogger Emilia.
How important (or unimportant) is anonymity to you?
Anonymity is important for me mostly because I compartmentalize my life quite heavily, with separate roles and to some extent identities for each sphere of my life. My parents are also quite sex negative and opposed to kink by principle so I want to keep this blog away from them as much as possible. However, I’m happy with just using an alias, and am looking forward to posting a few selfies to Twitter once my sunburn heals up!
If one of these readers becomes your biggest fan, where can they follow you on social media?
Do you consider yourself an advocate/supporter/ally for any minority groups?
In my offline life, I am a very serious activist, and left-wing principles will inevitably influence my online persona and blog activity.
For sex toy users: Imagine your plane is crashing near a deserted, gorgeous island. Before you jump into your lifeboat, you fumble through your bags to find the perfect sex toy to use until you’re rescued (by awfully good-looking sailors, obviously). Which toy did you choose?
If the island somehow has mains power, I would definitely choose the Doxy Wand, but if I had to go analog, the Vixen Creations Mustang would be my pick. I’m more protective of my Mustang because it’s prettier, so if I was actually in a plane crash I would probably save that one first.
Has sex blogging shaped/influenced you in a broader “real-life” sense? (i.e, your worldview, your personality, your confidence?)
Sex blogging has made me love my offline friends even more, because there’s nothing more exciting than knowing that someone you love is reading something you have put time and effort into writing. It has also made me feel less alone as someone who thinks about sex and sexuality frequently and in depth, because now I know that there are people who think in more or less the same way.
Introvert or extrovert? Cats or dogs? Coffee or tea?
Introvert, cats (though I have dogs), tea (I have drunk 2 pots this morning!)
If you could magically and instantaneously change something about this industry (i.e., sex toy industry, erotica, porn, sex education, etc), what would you change?
I know a lot of people are going to say safe sex toy materials, so I will leave that to them, but I want to end gendered marketing. Class dildos as dildos and vibrators as vibrators, not “men’s” and “women’s” toys. Market vibrators to vibrator users, not to women. More colour options other than pink and purple.
What are the top 1-3 factors that keep you blogging? What’s keeping you here?
Honestly, the biggest thing that is keeping me blogging is the joy of writing. I love sitting down and writing a post, tweaking for hours it until I’m happy with it. I’ve always loved writing, and often about sexuality (since I started writing fanfiction when I was 14), so it just seems like a natural thing to do. Sharing my opinions and interests with others are other fun upsides.
Lastly, what advice would you give to readers who are considering starting a sex blog of their own?
My biggest piece of advice is that your own voice is something that you build over time. Your posts will develop, even in as short a time as a few months, and writing more is the best thing to make you a better and more unique writer.